FAQs About Paganism

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Paganism is a generic term that encompasses many different religions.  The few things these religions have in common is that they’re nature-based and polytheistic.  They also have some form of ritual involved in their worship.  Some examples of Pagan religions are Wicca, Asatru, and Druidism.  They are all very different and have different religious practices, different rules they abide by, and different ways of worship.

What’s the difference between Wicca and Paganism?

Wicca is a type of Paganism, just like Baptists are a type of Christianity. Most types of Wicca involves the five elements (earth, air, fire, water, spirit) to some extent. Most of them choose a pantheon of deities, usually Celtic, but often are drawn from all over the world.  Several of them worship within a circle.  Many of them do energy work (a.k.a. spells), but not all of them.  Most of them celebrate the 8 Sabbats (holidays related to the sun and time of year) and many of them celebrate the Esbats (holidays related to the moon).

Are all Wiccans witches?

Some Wiccans, both male and female, refer to themselves as witches. However, due to the negative connotation of the word “witch”, many Wiccans choose not to associate themselves with that word.

What Gods do Pagans believe in?

It really varies. Some forms of Wicca believe in one Goddess and one God. There are Goddess-only versions of Wicca. There are believers in the Goddess and God as specific archetypes, such as Maiden, Mother, and Crone, also known as the Triple Goddess. There are people who worship a specific culture, such as Celtic Wiccans or Norse Pagans. Then there are eclectic people who pick and choose which ones they worship. Finally, there are some who believe that all Goddess and Gods everywhere are valid.

How do I find what Goddess or God to Worship? 

Click here to find the article dedicated to this subject.

spellDo Pagans do spells?

Some Pagans do spells, but not all of them. Some prefer to call it energy-work.  It’s nothing more than focused prayer, sometimes with props.  We can’t turn people into toads like in the movies.  We use energy-work for things that most other religions would pray for.  We do energy-work for protection, guidance, things that we want, things that we need, etc.  I have found that they usually work, but often in mysterious ways.

Can someone curse me or do something bad to me?

Most people who do spells or energy-work generally only do good or neutral works under the idea that anything you do will come back to you times three.  Not all practitioners of energy-work believe this, so there are some people who do bad things to other people.  This, I suppose, is why protection “spells” are so popular.  Personally, I have found that usually you are surrounded by the level of energy that you are at.  If you are in a bad place, bad energy seems to find you and bad things seem to happen, whether someone is actually “casting spells” on you or not.  If you are concerned, take some steps to protect yourself.

I am interested in becoming a Pagan.  Where do I start?

Start researching different types of Paganism.  A simple Google search will often get you what you’re looking for.  When you find one you like, look into it more.  Find websites about that specific type of Paganism.  Look for other Pagans or groups in your area if you are so inclined.  Take some classes if there is anything in your area.  If there is, it is usually found in metaphysical shops and on meetup.com.  Join Pagan Facebook groups or like Pagan pages.

I have included a Beginner’s section to help you with the basics.

Unfortunately, most types of Paganism is a do-it-yourself type of religion.  You research it yourself, you buy the tools yourself, you practice it yourself.  That’s why most of these questions have pretty vague answers.  Most people choose their own type of observance so almost everybody has variations that are all different!

Someone close to me just told me they are a Pagan.  How do I convert them back to our religion?

You don’t.  The best thing you can do is ask them questions about what they believe and would like to practice.  You don’t have to practice it too, but your support would mean the world to them.  The worst thing you could do is push your beliefs on them.  At best they will tolerate you because they were once close to you, but they may decide they don’t want to deal with your intolerance anymore and cut you out of their life.

Someone in my family is Pagan and they’re raising their kids to be Pagan.  I want their kids to be our religion.  How do I do this?

You don’t.  If you push your religion on someone else’s kids, it’s likely the parents will make sure the kids see you less often, if at all.  If nothing else, it’s a great way to piss off the kids’ parents. Either way, they kids are going to believe what they’re going to believe, regardless of what you or their parents say or do.

If you have any questions that weren’t answered here, please leave them in the comment section.  I will add them to this list.

Sabbats: Samhain

Samhain is usually celebrated on October 31st (April 30th in the southern hemisphere).  I have heard it pronounced both “sahm hayne” and  “sow-een”. This is my explanation of this holiday.  It may or may not work for you and your path.  There are a number of things that this Sabbat usually celebrates.  fall-wreaths-2380990hd-64_1000

  • The final harvest
  • Days growing shorter
  • The end of the wheel of the year
  • The thinning of the veil between our realm and the spirit realm
  • Death (sometimes rebirth, but usually that’s saved for Yule)
  • Honoring our ancestors
  • Honoring those who have crossed over into the spirit realm

That’s a lot of things to celebrate, so it’s not surprising that many people celebrate it in different ways.  Here are some ways that I and others celebrate it culturally.

  • Carve pumpkins or gourds to protect the home (I have also heard the explanation that these light the way for your ancestors to visit).
  • Make and eat foods that are harvested around this time where you live.  In the northeast United States where I live, it’s mostly Hope-Cemetery-Barre-Vermont-Viewspumpkins, winter squash, and apples. Warm apple cider is always a favorite!
  • Do divination for the coming year.
  • Visit the graves of loved ones who have passed.
  • Create an altar with photos of your ancestors.
  • Light a candle in your window to honor your ancestors.
  • Tell stories about those who have passed.
  • Make art with fallen leaves (this obviously doesn’t work if you don’t live somewhere where the leaves change).
  • Decorate your altar or living space with symbols of the time of year.

Here are some ideas for Samhain rituals.

  • Bindings
  • Cord cuttings
  • Endings of any kind
  • List things you no longer want in your life and burn the list
  • Honoring the ancestors
  • Guided meditations
  • Shadow work
  • Make peace that you will one day die
  • Invoking a Crone Goddess (for the experienced only)
  • Divination for the coming year

Please remember that your celebration and ritual can be as simple or complex as you want and have time for. How do you celebrate Samhain?

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Book Reviews

Here is a list of book reviews I have done on Pagan topics and spirituality.  It’s going to take some time for me to get a substantial list going, but here is what I have so far.  Please comment if there is a book you would like me to review.Bookshelf1

13 Original Clan Mothers by Jamie Sams

Empowering Your Life with Wicca by Sirona Knight

Sabbats by Edain McCoy

The Crystal Bible by Judy Hall

The Simple Sabbat by M. Flora Peterson

Book Review: The Simple Sabbat

 

Title: The Simple Sabbat – A Family Friendly Approach to the Eight Pagan Holidays

Author: M. Flora Peterson

Pages: 154

The first 22 pages were filled with information about the author, table of contents, dedication, prologue, and introduction.

The first chapter of 2 pages explains the wheel of the year. Chapter 2 delves into ritual circle formats. It offers a family-friendly version of rituals.

The remaining chapters are on the Sabbats. Each Sabbat offers the following sections: time, meaning of the season, God, Goddess, colors, altar, activities, an incense recipe, an oil recipe, a food recipe, a ritual, and sometimes a craft. There are also a few pages for notes at the end of each chapter.

The book really ends on page 138, but there are several pages about the author’s other books.

Verdict: 7/10 – I liked a lot of the activity ideas. There were a lot of references to her YouTube channel (probably too many references) for craft ideas and more recipes. Many of the rituals weren’t terribly family friendly. I guess it depends how old your kids are. I would have liked to see more ways to involve your family in ritual. There was also just one to two sentences describing the purpose of each holiday. If I were a beginner, I would have liked more information.

I also tried the recipe for skull bread. They tried to make it accessible for vegans or those with allergies, but mine didn’t taste or look very good, despite my baking experience.

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Embracing the Mother Aspect

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Many Pagans worship the triple Goddess — the maiden, the mother, and the crone.  I spent 37 years of my life as a “maiden”.  I had always wanted kids, but finally found myself in a place in life where I felt like I could have one.  The birth itself wasn’t exactly a miraculous experience.  After a number of factors, I ended up giving birth via c-section while very drugged up.  At first, I was afraid to hold my baby because my hands were so shaky due to the morphine.  After that, I was awake for 24 hours straight due to extreme itchiness  (also due to the morphine).  I was overtired and drugged up and afraid that I would fall asleep and drop him.  Thankfully, my family more than made up for my lack of holding him!  I worried that I didn’t hold him enough in those first days.

It seemed like motherhood was a constant state of worrying.  I worried whether or not my son was getting enough to eat.  I worried whether or not I was producing enough breast milk.  Before he was 6 months old, I worried about SIDS.  After he was 6 months old, I worried about him putting something in his mouth and choking.  It seemed like no matter how well we scanned the area where he played, new items that he wasn’t supposed to have would turn up.  Like a bottle cap.  Or a penny.  It was probably because of our cats, but it was still a constant worry.  I was also worried about him choking on food.  Or having a severe allergy to one of the foods we give him and him not getting to the hospital in time.

Motherhood was also a joy.  I watched how he looked at the world with wonder in his eyes.  It wasn’t long before he learned to smile.  Then he smiled at everyone.  He smiled a lot.  He was the happiest little boy ever!  I loved snuggling him to sleep, even when he lost the newborn smell.  I loved playing with him when he crawled around.  Some days it was heartbreaking going to work.  It didn’t help that I hated my job.  It was super sweet when he learned to crawl, that he would hear the door open and he’d crawl to the nearest baby gate to the entrance to wait for me with a giant grin on his face.  He started to do other things like feed himself and clap.  He loved all of it.  So did I!

It seems that there are two faces to motherhood — worrying and loving.  Either way, I don’t feel much like a Goddess.  I don’t feel like my womb is divine, even though my body looks more like the Goddess of Willendorf every day.  For all mothers out there, how do you associate motherhood with the mother aspect of the Goddess?

Stagnant in My Spirituality

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I have reached a point in my life where I’m feeling really stagnant in my spirituality.  I had a great Circle in the last place that I lived.  While I didn’t go all the time, I feel like they helped me continue to connect with my spirituality.

I have moved since then.  I also had a baby, so there’s a 9 month old to look after.  Somewhere in all of this, I really feel like I’ve lost my spirituality.  I haven’t meditated on my own in over a year.  I barely even celebrate all of the Sabbats, much less the full moons.

When I first discovered I was Pagan, I read every book I could find on the subject.  Since the internet really wasn’t helpful for Pagans at that point in time and most bookstores didn’t have many Pagan books, that really wasn’t that many books for me.  I read the Scott Cunningham book (you know which one) and a bunch of very misguided older books that I have since discarded.

Finally, the internet got a little more accessible and I was a WitchSchool student for quite some time.  I got my first degree in Corellian Wicca and was halfway through my second degree when I met a teacher in real life.  She taught me some stuff about Wicca I hadn’t learned.  She also taught me Shamanic Journeying and Reiki.  We had a falling out (she accused me of some very nasty things that weren’t true) and I moved again, though the two were unrelated.

Finally, I found my current circle.  Or maybe I should say that they found me. They’re a bit more advanced.  I liked that everything we did was open-ended and often non-pantheon-specific.  You could walk away from Circle with a lot or a little, depending on the day.  It was nice.  There was one very interesting circle where Tyr had a message for me.  Since then, I’ve tried to talk and connect with him, but I’m not sure really how to.   Then I moved again.

Now I’m in a place that is VERY Christian, so I don’t really feel comfortable advertising the fact that I’m Pagan.  It’s where that former teacher lives, so I also don’t have any interest in her knowing that I’m in the area.  But I’m so lonely.  I feel the need to learn again.  I have a ton of books, but I still feel lost.  I also have a ton of stuff.  I have a number of Goddess statues and a few God statues.  I have athames, pentacles, wands, incense, candles, and a ton of stones.  I feel like I need to pare things down, but I just don’t know what to keep and what to get rid of.  I feel like my spirituality needs work, but I’m so eclectic, I really don’t know where to start.  It’s like I have too many choices and not enough direction.  I could use some advice if anyone has any!

Light Work

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It has been hinted that I write a blog post on light work.  Having spent so long in the darkness, struggling to find any light, it is much easier for me to write on this topic than shadow work.  Before you decide to focus on light work, please remember that we are all beings of balance.  You cannot have light without dark.  At some point, you should also spend some time doing shadow work so you can learn to be content in any state of being.

First, I should talk about the nature of the depression that I experienced for so long.  Because of it, I lived in the shadow.  I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder (MDD).  One of the characteristics of MDD is that it continues for more than two weeks of depression at a time.  I didn’t feel particularly depressed.  I felt self-loathing at times.  I hated how I felt.  I felt lethargic and apathetic most of the time.  I hated to smile.  It hurt to laugh.  These last two statements may seem odd if you have never been so depressed that you can relate with them, but believe me, they’re true.

My first glimpse of the light was through anti-depressants.  For the first time in a long time, I started to understand what it felt like to be happy.  I had forgotten that feeling.  I liked it, so I tried to sustain it.  First, any time I felt myself slipping back into depression, I would request a higher dose of medication.  When I was on the maximum dosages for two anti-depressants, I realized I needed to try something else.  I would not recommend this method for finding the light within yourself.

After I discovered that medication alone would not help me, I realized that I needed to do some self-work.  Here are a list of strategies that I found (in no particular order) that brought out the light in me.  I wouldn’t recommend doing all of these at once.  Pick one and try it for a while.

  1. Write down one positive thing about my day at the end of the day.  Once you get good at this, try two positive things, then three.
  2. Write down one thing you’re grateful for each day.  Once you get good at this, try writing more than one.
  3. Spend 10 minutes a day in nature.
  4. Meditate.
  5. Adjust your diet.  I have found that eating certain foods made my depression worse.  It took a long time to cleanse my body before I could feel the differences that different foods made in my energy levels and mood.  You really have to be very body-conscious before this one will work.
  6. Move.  Go for a walk, ride a bike, dance, play tag with your kids, or anything else that you find to be fun.
  7. Reach out to friends and family.  Try and spend a little time each day talking to or spending time with friends and family.  Not on the internet, but in real life or on the phone.
  8. Pay attention to complaints.  If you complain a lot, try and become aware of it.  Try to lower the amount of time you complain each day.  If you hang out with people who constantly complain, try and find a way to diffuse the topic or spend less time with those people for now.
  9. Stop trying to compare your life with someone else.  Remember, it’s easy to make your life look perfect on the internet! The grass is always greener…
  10. Get your vitamin levels checked.  Often a lack of B-vitamins and vitamin D can produce a result that can make you feel depressed.
  11. See a therapist or counselor.
  12. Get your thyroid levels checked.  Sometimes hypothyroidism can be mistaken for depression (and in rarer instances other, more severe mental disorders).
  13. Focus on your spirituality.
  14. Take a break from things that cause you to check-out from reality like TV, movies, the internet, and fictional books.
  15. Do whatever it is you’re beating yourself up for not doing — be productive.
  16. Try minimalism (purging some possessions).  If you don’t want to be that extreme, at least clean your house/apartment/room.

I hope these help you find the light.  Please feel free to add more in the comments section!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Will Fate Find A Way?

I just found out that I will be losing my job at the end of June.  I am really upset.  I’m not upset because I will miss my job.  Frankly, my job was miserable.  I hated it there.  There were some days I when I came home from work crying.  I am upset because I am the sole breadwinner for my family and I’m worried that I won’t be able to provide for my husband and our wonderful son.  I am upset because we completely uprooted and moved 6 hours away with a 1 month old baby just so I could get this job that hasn’t even lasted a full year.  I am upset because I have been told that my performance is not good enough when everyone loved my work at my last few jobs.

In the past when I’d lose my job or something else awful happened, I always trusted to the Gods and things always came out alright in the end.  I believed that everything happens for a reason.  I always bounced back.  Now that I have a family to take care of, I’m finding it much harder to trust my fate to the Gods.  It’s not that my belief in them has gotten any less.  In fact, I talk to them almost daily asking for a good job to come along.  I think it’s because my fear of failure is more.

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I suppose there are three different types of thought on the subject of fate.  The first believes whole-heartedly in fate and the Gods that what is happening is happening for a reason.  It’s comforting to be able to be told that everything is meant to be and to just leave everything up to fate.  It also is comforting to think that no matter how crappy your life is, that there is a plan.  I always used to say that everything in life is either a blessing or a lesson.  I loved to be able to look at things that way.  I just wish I could.

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Then there are the people that think things are a combination of choice and fate.  These people believe that fate puts things in our grasp, but we need to choose what to do.  I can see why this one has a lot of appeal.  Nobody likes to feel completely helpless in their life.  This option is a great middle ground for people that want to have faith, but also feel like they’re in control of their own destiny to some extent.

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The final group of people believes that we create our own destiny.  I guess I could see how this could be appealing.  However, I guess I just don’t believe in myself and my power to create a destiny like the one that I want.  I suppose this one is for those that are super confident in themselves to create the life they want.  That’s just not me.

I’m currently trying to work on believing the first type.  I’m trying to tell myself that I learned a lot at this current job.  That’s true.  I’m trying to tell myself that my husband and I needed to move here because we needed some closure with some of the people here. We both used to live here and were initially excited about coming back.  However, it seemed that they all had moved on without us in our absence and we really didn’t have the friends we thought we did.

I also think I’m disappointed.  I keep telling myself that each job is going to be the last one.  It will be the one I stay at until retirement.  Except for the last one where I worked for the Archdiocese.  I knew I wouldn’t stay there forever!  It was hard enough being a Pagan working for Catholics and keeping my mouth shut for three years.  I couldn’t have kept living that way.  It hurt not to be able to live my truth.  But I digress.

What is your opinion of fate?  Are some things by chance or by choice or are they meant to be?

Shadow Work

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In my time working with older and more experienced Pagans, one thing I have found is that most of them talk about “shadow work”.  The idea always bothered me because I mistook “shadow work” for doing energy work for negative outcomes.  I have recently discovered that shadow work is getting to know and spend time with the parts of your personality that you do not necessarily like.

I have never personally felt the need to do shadow work.  I just figured out why.  I spent about 15 years of my life struggling with depression.  Only about 8 of those years overlapped with my time as a Pagan.  When I was depressed, I spent my life on a daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly basis with my shadow self.  I spent all of that time being a self-loathing, pathetic-feeling, emotionally-unstable wreck.  Most people do shadow work to get to know their whole selves.  I had to do light work go get to know my whole self.  I had to claw my way bit-by-bit out of my shadow self, struggling towards the light.

Other people, who have lived much of their life in the light tend to repress any negative or “icky” emotion.  Some examples of “icky” emotions might be fear, emotional pain, jealousy, sadness, grief, regret, worry, a sense of unfairness, and negative feelings towards yourself or your body.  I am kind of an expert on these types of emotions as I lived with them for a long time.  If you repress any of these negative emotions regularly, you may find yourself expressing anger or rage (anger’s ugly cousin).  You may find yourself crying for no apparent reason.  Anxiety, depression, and/or panic attacks could occur.  You may have problems sleeping or over-sleeping.  You may have problems under-eating or over-eating.  You might have problems focusing or focusing on only one thing.  These can all be manifestations of ignoring and repressing these “icky” emotions.  They also might be problems involving a psychological disorder, so make sure to get yourself checked out with a psychologist if you think that might be the case.  Often the two go hand-in-hand.

As someone who lived for so long with my shadow-self, the best way I have found is take a very Buddhist approach to my emotions.  I acknowledge the emotion for what it is.  I allow that I am feeling it.  I do my best to not react to it while trying to feel the emotion fully.  That part is the most difficult because the strongest emotions make me want to act, to want to take some sort of action, just to end the horribleness of the feeling.  I have found that the more I allow myself to experience the feelingness of that emotion (for want of a better term), the less it effects me and the less I want to do something to react to it.

Anyone interested in doing shadow work, here is a great website which includes some great information, including step-by-step exercises: https://scottjeffrey.com/shadow-work/.

Do any of you have experience with shadow work?  What would you recommend to someone who is new to it?

The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me! I recently moved to Gouverneur, NY.  It’s a rural, Christian, conservative area.  I’ve checked every resource at my disposal and discovered that there are no local Pagans and no local Pagan groups.   Me being Pagan, I have never felt so alone.

I have several coworkers who moved to this area who have found a community atmosphere in their local Christian church. I was unable to make local connections in that way.  I tried to start a Facebook group for Pagans living in this county.  I tried to join several Pagan groups on Facebook.  None of them were really terribly helpful.

I finally decided to start this blog in the hopes that I will connect with other Pagans.  So if you are Pagan and have a comment on what I have to say, please leave a comment!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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